The 60 Minute Date

I have a confession to make: I love and hate the one hour date.

It’s probably a conclusion any one could come to after taking a look at my rate structure. My rates have always been very deliberate decisions – so, time and time again, I have purposefully chosen to keep the 60 minute date offering… albeit at a premium when compared to longer engagements.

A lot of people (especially the cynics who have bought into the “greedy hooker” trope), think the preference for longer dates is strictly about money. Indeed, it is… kind of. It would be disingenuous of me to say it is not. I’ve yet to encounter a business owner, irregardless of the amount of passion they have for their work, who does not structure their business model in a way that will help them make more money.

But it’s not just about the money, else I would keep a perfectly linear rate structure. Or, I would get rid of the one hour option altogether – according to my business metrics, 60 minutes is the least frequently requested time frame, even before I raised my rates in September. 

Yet, I can’t seem to officially get rid of it. Why is that?

I actually do enjoy the one hour date for many reasons. The administrative work of being a companion requires me to be hands on and fully engaged at all times. Beyond this demimonde, I also have to manage obligations to school work, content creation, my part-time role in a local non-profit organization, and establish the framework for another business I am working on… then use the leftover time (of which not much is left) to tend to my personal health and relationships. With a schedule that is constantly filled to the brim, the one hour date often serves as a welcome, pleasurable interlude in my day. 

“Sometimes, these few moments spent intertwined in the body and mind of another person will provide a sense of spontaneity and exhilaration that inspires the rest of the day.”

I appreciate that I am not the only busy person in the world –  many of the people I meet also manage a loaded schedule. They have to tend to personal errands, a hectic home life, and day-to-day work loads that often have to be carried home from the office. In the midst of everything they have going on, a 60 minute date is sometimes the only additional commitment that can be made. I have had dates interrupted within the first 15 minutes by incompetent co-workers trying to troubleshoot the projector in the conference room and schoolteachers reporting on playground meltdowns at recess! 

The people I meet are often ambitious and enterprising.  As a result, their financial obligations can be just as limiting as constraints on time. Having to pour money into a home-grown business in order to take it to the next level, or the process of purchasing a new home might mean shrinking the “fun funds”. Saving means sacrificing, and temporary personal restraint will usually pay off in a major way. Sometimes clients have to opt for an hour of fun and save the penthouse suites, Michelin dinners, and vintage champagne toasts for a celebration after the deal is done!

Offering the one hour date allows me to meet people who I otherwise would never be able to, for whatever the reason may be. I am fortunate enough to be able to say I have never had a bad date: careful, intentional curation of my brand has allowed me to attract the perfect suitor into my orbit. And so, invariably, we are both left wanting more and longer when our brief time together comes to a close. 60 minutes together is the perfect tease, sending us spiraling into the depths of desire and planning our next rendezvous. 

The problem, though, is that I am not someone who likes to be left waiting and yearning. That’s why I am not quite fond of 60 minutes dates… they are just so short! 

As is the case with cherished memories, priceless treasures, and most luxuries in life – time refines. I savor the date that ignites a flame and proceeds as a slow burn: a sensual story that starts with the sudden strike of a match, the lighting of a fresh Jo Malone candle, and the natural extinguishment once the room has been filled with the fragrance of Velvet Rose and Oud. Extended seduction and playful teasing are things I enjoy just as much as the manifesting of pleasure.

Further, my partiality to the longer date is rooted in pragmatism. I treat each and every suitor as an artist, for whom I hope to serve as a muse. Therefore, whether our date is to be 60 minutes or 6 days in duration, I strive to ensure our time together is our fantasy incarnated as a new reality. The entire affair should serve as a respite from the obligations of the day and, afterwards, the memories should serve as a source of inspiration. 

 I have standards for the experience I provide and I do not make concessions based on the length of the date. I carefully curate the details to the tastes of each person I meet, all the way down to the sounds, smells, and tastes of each date. The visual senses are aroused in concert with the tactile through stimulating aesthetics – the feel of cool satin, soft cashmere, and delicate lace on the fingertips as they remove garments from smooth, supple brown skin. 

As I enter, create, and exit the erotic realm by way of rituals, the one hour date is more accurately a three hour commitment in my day. I enjoy every aspect of each date, and I feel so fulfilled knowing that each one is a deep dive into the depths of the passionate, sensual, sacred energy that we all have but often suppress out of obligation. However, having invested so much loving energy into the elements that guide our journey, I often wish for adequate time for us both to enjoy the experience as it has been designed to be enjoyed.

Nevertheless, there are many amazing things in my life that have evolved from just a 60 minute investment of time.  

I see my yoga instructor once a week for private lessons, each session being an hour long. I love catching up with her and reviewing the highlights of our lives in the time that has passed since we last met. We have some very deep, insightful conversations before, during, and after the deed is done. Over the eight months we have been seeing each other, our relationship has become emotionally and physically fulfilling. 

Just days ago, we finally worked me into the scorpion pose. As soon as I entered the exquisite position, she cheerily called out, “Delicious!” 

And at the end of our hour together, I walked out feeling refreshed and enlivened. It felt like I had spent half a day at the spa. She is a magician.

As am I.  So for now, I’m fine with keeping my one hour- as long as you come back. We can make 60 minutes feel like an elongated episode of time, spent suspended in the sensual realm. 

Let’s create something delicious.